As I mentioned last month, among my resolutions for 2013 were a few “Internal” goals. One of these goals I actually cheated and started before the New Year, mostly because I was in ghastly amounts of pain.
That’s right — I booked a massage.
Right now you’re thinking, “Oh, Alethea. What is wrong with you? It’s not terrible to book a massage, you selfish thing!” Part of me thinks that too. In fact, I thought that for so long, I never actually GOT a massage, because I was worried that I would fall in love with it and then never be able to afford it again. All I knew about massages I read in books and saw in movies. They looked like wonderful, magical things…especially for a writer with chronic neck & shoulder stiffness.
A few years ago, I tried a 30-minute chair massage.
I was in severe pain for the next three days.
I tried chair massages twice after that, thinking that it was ood for me, working out these muscles. Now, I’ve had whiplash from riding Outer Limits (now Flight of Fear) at King’s Island. The pain I felt after every chair massage was ten times worse than whiplash.
I did a lot last year — driving myself 2500 miles around the southeast for my own book tour, then sitting down to write an entire novel, all the while still attending conventions and Comic Cons every other week. I saw a chiropractor and hated every minute of it. By Halloween, I’d lost feeling in my right armpit. I bought a coupon for a local Yoga studio online…and then promptly got sick. By Christmas, I decided to make the call. I was prepared for the pain.
A month and three massages later, I’m here to tell you: I have found a new way of life. I’m sleeping better and have fewer headaches. Luis, my masseuse, is my new favorite person. This is one resolution I mean to keep.
If you have never had a table massage before, here are some helpful things to know:
1.) A chair massage and a table massage are totally different. A chair massage can be done in a mall. A table massage is done in a private room, with low lighting and soothing music. It’s amazing what a difference ambiance makes. The more relaxed you are, the better your massage will go. My massages were performed on a heated table, and were a million times less painful than my experience in The Chair.
2.) Get naked. This is really the perfect opportunity to get over all those hang-ups you might have with your body. What the masseuse needs you to be is a lump of dead weight on the table–he or she will move your arms and legs and head as needed. You are under layers of bedsheets, and the masseuse reveals only what he/she needs to, folding and tucking the ends under your body so nothing comes loose. It’s very professional and discreet.
On my first visit, I kept envisioning myself as a big fat mob boss with a cigar, like in the comic books. THEY don’t care what they look like, and those guys get massages ALL THE TIME. (Plus, when your masseuse finds that magical pressure point in your size-14 butt that clenches around your sciatic nerve after sitting in a chair for 9 hours, you will be so happy you won’t even care.)
3.) Communication is key. Be sure to let your masseuse know up front that this is your first time. He or she will help guide you through things (like when it’s time to flip over). Ask any questions you like and bring up any concerns you might have before it all starts. No need to overshare–just tell them if you have areas you’d like them to concentrate on. They’ll find the rough spots, even the ones you don’t know about.
Then it’s time to shut up and relax. Relaxing is difficult for me, so it requires concentration. Similarly, your masseuse is doing the equivalent of seeing inside your body with their hands. They need to concentrate as well. Of course, if you are feeling unbearable pain, let your masseuse know immediately. It’s okay to feel uncomfortable as they work on those rough patches, but pain is not the goal.
4.) There are different types of massage. Books and movies teach us to be scared of “deep tissue” and anything that involves someone walking on your back. Massages can range from 1-10, 1 being Relaxation Massage and 10 being Deep Tissue. The massages I get are “Therapeutic Massages,” which are at about a 7 or 8. In Therapeutic Massage, there is a lot of work done with thumbs and forearms. With Deep Tissue, it’s all elbows. Communicate to your masseuse about the level of massage you desire.
5.) Tip well. Yes, massages are expensive, and I balked when I realized that I was expected to fork over an additional $15-20 to the masseuse when my hour was up. But consider: this person has just spent an hour intimately touching your naked body with the express purpose of you feeling better. And at the end of that hour, when you DO feel better, you will wish you’d brought more than a $20 with you to give this person. Trust me.
This doesn’t cover everything, but hopefully this post will help some writers who might be on the fence make the decision to treat themselves better and spring for a therapeutic massage. If exercise and chiropractomancy hasn’t worked for you and you’re leaning toward physical therapy or–heaven forbid–surgery, give massage a try. Personally, I am SO glad I did.
And maybe one day in the future I’ll get Luis to have a Guy Day with us… *grin*
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Alethea, I’m so glad you have found this and are being healed. My sister in law is a masseuse and she likes to practice new techniques on me. My favorite so far has been this head massage where it looks almost violent but feels wonderful. Let’s make a deal: You get your Luis to guy day and I’ll try and set up a Mermaid day with Lili, best SIL ever.
I heart massages but I do have to watch. I’m incredibly ticklish! It’s annoying but I try to convince myself that my constant giggles are cute.
Anyhoo, I’m so glad you finally had a good massage and that it’s helping. Big smoochies to you, fishy sister! 😉
You forgot to mention a significant difference between chair massages in the middle of a crowded mall and a private table massage. You would look really bizarre being naked at the mall. LOL.
I’m glad you’re taking care of yourself! You’ll be a better writer for it as well. When you can sit without pain and without thinking of pain that will undoubtedly creep up later in the day, words come easier. 🙂
Great post! It makes me want to run out and book a massage.
Huge fan of massage, it’s a primary component of all those physical therapy sessions I’ve enjoyed – of course, sans lovely music and lighting.
Still, a masseuse is a lovely and necessary addition to a writing life. Congratulations on finding your healing path!
I am a lover of spas, massages, facials, manicures and pedicures, any of those things I denied myself in my wayward youth I am all over these days! So yeah, loved your post and you deserve a break, never let it wait! **Hugs**
Hi Alethea, I’m so glad you discovered your love for massages. Get them and get them often. Hey — maybe we should think about a mermaid outing to the spa sometime?!
Massage really helps your circulation and energy. I believe it improves your quality of life drastically. I strongly encourage everyone who likes or can handle being touched needs to be implementing massage as a part of their wellness routine. Thanks for getting this information out.
I joined the Massage Envy subscription several years ago. So I get at least one massage a month, maybe more. Another thing you should try is reflexology massage – I do that occasionally for a change of pace and find it even more relaxing than the full body massage because only your feet and hands are getting attention. No undressing required but you still bliss-out on the massage table.
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